Acknowledging the Urge
Whenever I set out to complete a task I have noticed that at certain times I feel a strong urge build up inside me to get the task done 'as quickly as possible'. It almost appears like this is helping and could be described as motivation. However, the more I look at my results I realise that I am getting things done in spite of this urge. I see that instead of motivation, this urge is providing me with a feeling of 'I'll be happy when' and anxiety. This feeling only serves to take me away from the present moment, where action is taken, and holds my happiness captive to the end goal instead of on the process itself.
Mayweather, McGregor and Composure
Composure seems to be a key factor behind high performance. If you saw some of the McGregor v Mayweather fight this weekend then you will see Conor credit Mayweather's composure that helped him to eventually win the fight. Indeed it is Conor's composure and student mindset following his defeats which often turns his defeats into moral victories, because it is in these moments that we get a glimpse of his character.
Composure like most things in life can be turned into a skill that can be developed. Composure can be developed in the little choices and behaviours that incrementally add up over time. In my current situation I can now choose to see these urges to complete tasks quickly as a way to develop my composure. In these moments I can acknowledge the choice to go with the urge or leave my mind quieten and come back to reality. I can accept that most times I will fail at this, but I can also see that with this acceptance I will fail a little less each day.
If the urge to 'quickly get things done' resonates in any way with you then I would recommend looking at it in a simple manner. I have found that I can begin to gain some clarity and space from this urge in two simple steps.
- Knowing when to take a break from study.
- Knowing when to stop talking and instead listen to somebody else.
Are you aware of any urges that seem to keep you captive? What did you think of the Mayweather v McGregor fight? Would you like to have a clearer head? If you have any insights, questions or recommendations feel free to leave a comment or drop me an e-mail.