The Limitation Model
I used to think that I could either give into something or resist it. My underlying logic did not allow me to see that there were in fact other options. To be honest neither resistance nor non resistance were too appealing to me but in any given moment I can only play with what is put in front of me. It felt like everything was heavy and a limitation, and the only thing that made sense in the moment was to resist my unwanted reality as best I could.
Experience has taught me that this doesn't work and in fact only serves to strengthen the perception of what I don't want. When I resisted something I felt feelings of anger, frustration and resentment and quite often I knew I was only delaying the inevitable. In hindsight I can see that in the times I didn't even try to resist a little more of my self-confidence was chipped away at. I was caught between a rock and a hard place and at the time it felt like this is just how life is. I never ventured too far beyond my box of limitations so the possibility of the existence of helpful unknown unknowns didn't even occur to me.
The Possibility Model
At any given moment I can choose to perceive a possibility or a limitation in my world. This seemed like an oversimplification to me at first, that's until I took a step away from the limitation model and walked towards the possibility model. In the possibility model a new understanding begins to unfold for me. The truth that whatever I resist persists becomes a little clearer and makes more logical sense
Within the possibility model it doesn't make sense to resist something. My world looks like a world of possibility rather than a world of limitation so there is nothing to resist. In this subtle shift I didn't have to change the world and everyone in it, I just decided to turn the kaleidoscope and look at the world through a different lens.
Has an area of your life ever shifted from limitation to possibility? Have you ever experienced the same situation in a different way? Would you like to have a clearer head? If you have any insights, questions or recommendations feel free to leave a comment or drop me an e-mail.